A Dog and a Pig's Ear

About five years ago, the loss of my family’s puggle left a hole in our hearts a few months shy of her 16th birthday. I have many fond memories of our sweet Jazmyn. Among all my sweet memories is one particular “life lesson” memory.

There was no swaying Jazzy, as we affectionately called her, to give up her pig’s ear that night. She was mission-minded, and her mission was guarding that pig’s ear. She was determined to stay the course, and stay the course she did.

I fruitlessly tried sweet-talking her into giving up that pig’s ear. I tried cajoling her into a swap to help get her mind off the pig’s ear. I tried shaming her into realizing the folly of her ways. She doggedly (this adverb lives up to its name!) held onto that pig’s ear, with no intentions of letting go.

The determination and focus required to launch a new 501(c)(3) are a lot like that of Jazzy that night. She alliteratively persevered with patient passion to meet her end goal — keeping that pig’s ear. Likewise, we persevered with patient passion through the process of launching CES. Like with Jazzy, giving up was never an option.

Has the Lord placed a vision in your mind (not necessarily of launching a 501[c][3])? Has that vision been bubbling up inside you like a wellspring of water ready to rush up from the depths like a geyser? Do you keep trying to push it down because you doubt it can come to pass? If the vision is indeed from the Lord, He will move mountains to give it the wings of an eagle. Simply trust Him with the process... but also be ready to be like a dog with a pig’s ear. 😊

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:5&6, ESV).

(Photo of Jazzy, credit to Danielle)

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By Tammy Choleva • January 20, 2025

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By Tammy Choleva • January 13, 2025

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Looking Ahead to Year-End Giving

By Tammy Choleva • November 25, 2024

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